Sunday, March 3, 2013

Take time and smell the roses... Wait, that's not roses!

I have to remind myself this every day--slow down!  Children should not be rushed.  For the most part, a child is doing the best he/she can, and if you hurry the child along, he/she will get frustrated, or even worse, give up.
Life shouldn't feel like an episode of "Beat the Clock".  When it does, things are out of whack and it's time to rethink priorities.

Here's a great post that a Montessori-trained infant/toddler teacher/co-worker of mine shared.  It really puts things in perspective for a busy parent.  Think of the next 2 a.m. diaper change as another opportunity to see your baby smile.  Enjoy.

Friday, March 1, 2013

Ain't nothin' free

With my return to work looming mid-month, I am full of mixed feelings.  I  am fortunate to have a job at a school where there is infant care.  I am fortunate to work with people who are sympathetic to the working mother.  Not everyone is that fortunate.  I got 8 weeks (usually it's 6, but I had a c-section) at 60% pay, then another 6 weeks under "maternal bonding" at 60% pay.  Yes, it's better than nothing.  But take a look at this comparison of the U.S. v. the rest of the world, when it comes to parental leave.

I nursed W exclusively for nearly 7 months, and gradually tapered off, stopping bedtime nursing when he was 2-and-a-half.  Plan to do the same for J.  It will be more challenging this time, though, as I am heading back to work soon and will have to pump (space to be determined).  I am under no illusions that it will be easy.  
Disclaimer:  Of course, I am in the "breast is best" column.  But some of my dear friends have self-proclaimed "milk duds", and I don't fault them one bit.  To quote Eeyore, "We can't all, and some of us don't." 
That said, check out this article a fellow Smithie posted on FB from the NYTimes.

Americans Support Breast-Feeding, as Long as It’s ‘Free’

Breast-feeding mothers still need support.
Much of the narrative around breast-feeding of late about the “backlash.” In one segment of society, breast-feeding is seen as nearly ubiquitous — so ubiquitous that to do anything else, no matter the reason, is to court disapproval and even condemnation. When you read an article on the necessity of defending that choice (like those from Marie C. Baca, writing here and Chris Kornelis, writing for The Atlantic), you might think that only the “fearless formula feeder” needs support, while the triumphant nursing mother, saluted by the phrase “breast is best,” revels in the security of a job well done.
You would be wrong. And creating an artificial sense of division between those mothers based on how they feed their babies distracts us from the real problem: how little we do to support either mother. In some cases, it’s that lack of support that creates the distinction.
With the United States ranked last in breast-feeding support by Save the Children in its State of the World’s Mothers report for 2012; with nearly 40 percent of women not eligible for maternity leave under the Family and Medical Leave Act; and with every individual woman responsible for cobbling together a structure that will allow her to care for her infant while still putting a roof over the baby’s head, new mothers need all the support they can get, and they aren’t getting much. Breast-feeding mothers, or mothers who hope to breast-feed, need to be present for their infant (or their breast pump) in ways that make that lack of support even more challenging. A pat on the back from your doctor and the approbation of the mothers down the block may be nice, but that and a MetroCard will get you a subway ride to work and not much else.
As I’ve written here before, breast-feeding isn’t free. It takes time to nurse a baby, and anyone with a job that pays by the hour knows in a deeply personal way that time is money. Pumping mothers who have to ask for special dispensation to pump at work are often perceived as costing their employers in lost time. Women who breast-feed for six months or more experience a decline in income with long-reaching effects. Breast milk has costs that can be measured in economic terms, and individual families are the ones that bear them.
The W.K. Kellogg Foundation recently surveyed 1,300 Americans about their attitudes toward breast-feeding. The questions were couched in positive terms (as befits an organization working to build a movement supporting breast-feeding), and the responses were overwhelmingly positive as well.
62 percent of respondents strongly agreed that “all women should be encouraged to breast-feed because of the health benefits for babies and society” (and an additional 25 percent agreed).
61 percent strongly agreed that “whether or not a woman breast-feeds should not be dictated by the quality of health care she receives or her work situation” (and an additional 21 percent agreed).
61 percent strongly agreed that “everyone can play a role in making it easier for mothers who want to breast-feed” (and another 24 percent agreed).
Respondents were also asked what might make it easier for women in this country to breast-feed their children. Among the things that a majority thought would be “very helpful”: clean, private spaces in public places where women can go to breast-feed their children. Pamphlets. Discussions. Workplaces that support breast-feeding mothers by offering space to pump and a place to store breast milk.
Things got a little iffy when those same enthusiastic supporters of breast-feeding were asked if “government policies that support breast-feeding” would be helpful: only 41 percent said “very.” And then there’s the question that wasn’t asked: if 72 percent of you agree or strongly agree that “all babies should be breast-fed exclusively for a minimum of six months as recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics,” then wouldn’t it be “very helpful” if the mothers of those babies could all take at least some paid time off to do just that?
Who thinks many of those respondents would have put their money where their mouth is, even in responding to a survey?
It’s time to ask. We don’t, as a society, put our money on breast-feeding. We recommend it, but we don’t pay for it. Women who go back to work quickly after having a baby are less likely to breast-feed, and many women in the United States have no choice but to return to work as soon as they’re able. Only 11 percent of all private-industry workers have access to paid family leave. Among state and local government employees, the number is slightly higher — 16 percent. Federal workers don’t get any, though all employees may be able to use accrued sick leave. Hotel chains, box stores, casual dining — those may be where the jobs are, but most aren’t where you’ll find a maternity-leave benefit for hourly workers. We’d all have to pay another nickel for that giant roll of paper towels, motel room or chimichanga.
Of course, you can breast-feed a baby exclusively and still go back to work the minute you’re back on your feet. You can do it if you’re a C.E.O. who installs a nursery next to her office, and you can do it if you’re a line worker in an assembly plant with enough breaks to pump for an infant eating every two hours, or maybe have a relative willing to bring the baby by to actually nurse. Granted, you might be working heavy equipment on a minimum of sleep, but that’s a small price to pay to further our national credo: we’re all in this alone.
In a Your Money column, Tara Siegel Bernard wrote about the many benefits to families, babies, employers and society from paid maternal-leave policies: lower infant mortality rates, lower illness and hospitalization rates for infants who are more likely to be breast-fed, benefits to women’s health, and economic gains from reducing health-care costs and women’s overall time out of the work force. Yet the United States is the only advanced economy without some form of paid leave.
Paid leave wouldn’t automatically lead to breast-feeding for all, nor should it. The argument for supporting the opportunity to breast-feed among all women, rather than making breast milk a luxury good, isn’t one over whether “breast is best.” It’s an argument about how we do, and don’t, support families, and about whether we as a society will ever accept that every one of us benefits when our children are given every opportunity to thrive.

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Jon Stewart eats crow

It's a feat to seem sincere and funny at the same time.  Apology accepted. 

Monday, February 25, 2013

Recent sewing projects

Here are some of my recent sewing projects...
Yes, W wanted to be Dopey for Halloween.
 Customized burp cloths
 Wiener dog for neighbor's baby
 Customized pillowcases for neighbor's birthday
 Stroller blanket for co-worker's baby
 Stroller blanket for (another) co-worker's baby
 Turned-back stroller blanket
Bib and burp cloth to match blanket
Yes, I've been busy.  And I have a stack of fabric that I'm working with for more baby-related fun, including items for our school's annual auction.  More pics to follow, I promise.

Saturday, February 23, 2013

Mom Dancing

We all know about Mom Jeans. Huge Fashion-Infraction, right? But Mom Dancing? If there's anything wrong with this, I don't wanna be right!

Friday, February 22, 2013

The Daily Show FAIL

So I am normally a huge fan of The Daily Show and Jon Stewart. However, Stewart got it wrong earlier this week. Take a look. Of course people automatically think White Southern Male of a Certain Age=Racist. I am so glad there are folks out there setting the record straight. My dad worked with Mr. Molpus for most of my childhood, and I grew up hearing him speak out and rally against the mindset which Jon Stewart accused him of having. I have never had anything but respect for him, having seen him weather the harsh political climate in Mississippi with grace and sincere good-heartedness. Really, Jon Stewart? Is it that unbelievable that such Southerners exist?

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Downton Abbey, Part II

Raise your hand if you think Cousin Rose is the next Olivia Kendall.